Sounds dissociative all right! We sometimes had that... but we could sorta see it happening, and now we actively try to prevent it because bad news.
In our case, our abuse experiences tended to be highly encapsulated: there was "abuse time" and then there was "not abuse time" and there was very little crossover. So while those memories got nuked, it was very easy to keep contiguous memory otherwise; if you go to sleep, get woken up being attacked, and then afterward it's 2 AM and there's nothing left to do but go back to sleep, it's easy to wake up with the memory of just going to sleep like normal. Things get cut out retroactively, with the rest of life narrative stitched together.
Other than that, with more "normal" levels of stress, we just lose emotional context for the memory. We don't like it, since it means we keep going back to bad situations, unable to learn from them, so we try to actively stop that.
As far as "how people run their systems," we did post our system government and rules a while back...
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Date: 2020-01-23 11:04 pm (UTC)In our case, our abuse experiences tended to be highly encapsulated: there was "abuse time" and then there was "not abuse time" and there was very little crossover. So while those memories got nuked, it was very easy to keep contiguous memory otherwise; if you go to sleep, get woken up being attacked, and then afterward it's 2 AM and there's nothing left to do but go back to sleep, it's easy to wake up with the memory of just going to sleep like normal. Things get cut out retroactively, with the rest of life narrative stitched together.
Other than that, with more "normal" levels of stress, we just lose emotional context for the memory. We don't like it, since it means we keep going back to bad situations, unable to learn from them, so we try to actively stop that.
As far as "how people run their systems," we did post our system government and rules a while back...
--Rogan